Where should we go from here?

So I have been with me boyfriend 2yrs we own a house together I run my own daycare from the home. I am 20 he is 22 we have no children I am a harsh person, he used to be a soft person. He feels loved if I clean do dishes cook dinner those sorts of things, which is perfect cause I am a betty crock-er kinda girl. I always dreamed of being a home maker. I feel loved only from physical love that is it without I feel, empty, alone and unloved. Problem, it isn't something he needs, yes he likes it but he is more of a one - two times a week I am 3 -4 minimum three days is agony. We have talked and talked and talked about ways to fix this solve this make it so I am not ripping his head off after three days of no nooky. Nothing has worked I have cried and begged and pleaded told him I can't live like this I want a man that wants me! all that stuff and now we are stuck we have all these life plans all these same goals and I don't want to lose them or him. I should also mention it has gotten worse as I am very hurtful when I am angry I say awful things to him and now he has picked up a lot of my behaviors and I can't stand it I am working at getting better at controlling me anger and he is getting worse. I just don't no what to do, where do we go from here?